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jakebe
Hey there...
Got to see Waking Life last night. Man, that was such a great movie. Once I recover from con, it's definitely going to be something I own.
I've been wondering a lot about Zen nature, recently. It's something that I've taken to thinking that I understand, at least on some level, but actually it's only the vapor of understanding that could coalesce into something more tangible later or not. The key is to not think about it so much.
A situation sprouted up here among the local furs recently that was just...a bad situation. No one really chose to handle it the most compassionate way possible, so naturally I had to go and voice my opinion that I thought people were 'doing it wrong'. Not only did this get a lot of folks just pissed off, it just made me feel like a complete and total heel for being presumptuous about taking the moral high road.
I love to give advice. I love to be idealistic about the way things 'should be'. People should respect one another, people should have empathy for another's feelings, motivations and situation. People should know how shitty it is to be treated a certain way and never want to treat another person in like manner, etc. etc. There's nothing wrong, I suppose, in expecting a certain level of compassion out of people, but...well, with expectations, there's always disappointment.
Why should I expect these people to adhere to codes of conduct they never agreed to in the first place, heck, that they don't even know about, and more importantly don't care about?
How do you handle something like that diplomatically?
There's a lot that I disagree with. I have a very strong opinion on a lot of things that are important to me. The rest of the world, however...is a very random and uncompromising place sometimes. Isn't it pretty egocentric to think that it should be anything else? Shouldn't I be...letting go of these expectations, these desires to see people treated better? Compassion without expectation, compassion for compassion's sake, that's the goal.
I'm troubled because I can't shake the disappointment. The disappointment in the people who are principals in the situation, disappointment in myself for not handling it better...diappointment for being disappointed. I don't like the feeling developing for some folks, it's just...harder to be compassionate when you feel that way.
Black Bear came to a meeting late and said, "I'm feeling frazzled after dealing with my cubs. What if I don't feel compassionate?"
Raven said, "Fake it."
"That doesn't seem honest," said Black Bear.
"It doesn't begin with honesty," said Raven.
Got to see Waking Life last night. Man, that was such a great movie. Once I recover from con, it's definitely going to be something I own.
I've been wondering a lot about Zen nature, recently. It's something that I've taken to thinking that I understand, at least on some level, but actually it's only the vapor of understanding that could coalesce into something more tangible later or not. The key is to not think about it so much.
A situation sprouted up here among the local furs recently that was just...a bad situation. No one really chose to handle it the most compassionate way possible, so naturally I had to go and voice my opinion that I thought people were 'doing it wrong'. Not only did this get a lot of folks just pissed off, it just made me feel like a complete and total heel for being presumptuous about taking the moral high road.
I love to give advice. I love to be idealistic about the way things 'should be'. People should respect one another, people should have empathy for another's feelings, motivations and situation. People should know how shitty it is to be treated a certain way and never want to treat another person in like manner, etc. etc. There's nothing wrong, I suppose, in expecting a certain level of compassion out of people, but...well, with expectations, there's always disappointment.
Why should I expect these people to adhere to codes of conduct they never agreed to in the first place, heck, that they don't even know about, and more importantly don't care about?
How do you handle something like that diplomatically?
There's a lot that I disagree with. I have a very strong opinion on a lot of things that are important to me. The rest of the world, however...is a very random and uncompromising place sometimes. Isn't it pretty egocentric to think that it should be anything else? Shouldn't I be...letting go of these expectations, these desires to see people treated better? Compassion without expectation, compassion for compassion's sake, that's the goal.
I'm troubled because I can't shake the disappointment. The disappointment in the people who are principals in the situation, disappointment in myself for not handling it better...diappointment for being disappointed. I don't like the feeling developing for some folks, it's just...harder to be compassionate when you feel that way.
Black Bear came to a meeting late and said, "I'm feeling frazzled after dealing with my cubs. What if I don't feel compassionate?"
Raven said, "Fake it."
"That doesn't seem honest," said Black Bear.
"It doesn't begin with honesty," said Raven.
