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Dec. 28th, 2022 09:11 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jakebe
Christmas Day was super chill. We went up to Grass Valley to help a friend pet/house-sit for another friend, and since it was fairly isolated there wasn't a whole lot to get up to. Going to the store probably takes a 20 minute drive down a twisting mountain road, and being the homebodies we are there wasn't much temptation to pop out for something or other.
R. made his tuna casserole, which at this point is a Christmas tradition. It's the ultimate comfort food: simple to make but delicious, with more cheese and pasta than could be considered healthy. We paired it with Glass Onion and The Prom, a few Jackbox games, and Master Dater, the new Cyanide-and-Happiness card game. Maybe it's all the College Humor and Characters Welcome bits we've been seeing, but we've gotten into the habit of using the cards as jumping-off points for character bits and that's been the "secret sauce" that really makes this game sing.
The idea is that a rotating "Sexy Single" (that's the judge) picks three offbeat interests from a stack. They could be anything like "I need someone willing to help me move right now." to "I am interested in someone who can bring back the dead." The "Bachelors" (other players) then pick from one of three "Head" and "Body" cards to make a complete person. So, using the above example, the Head could be "Talking Car" while the Body could be "Zombie". Then, you make your pitch.
The limitation of your hand size is what brings out the creativity. You might have the perfect Head or Body card, but nothing for the other bit -- so it encourages you to think of pretty strange reasons why you'd match. The "Sexy Single" awards each "Bachelor" with the interest they made the strongest case for, so you can get one to three cards per round. The player who's collected one card from each group (pink/blue/orange) AND at least five cards is the winner.
Games go pretty quick; usually there's a winner by the time there's one complete run around the table for four to five players. I'd recommend it for a pre-dinner game. It's a great way to pass the time for 15-30 minutes between larger activities.
We came home fairly early on Monday to make sure Biscuit wasn't too bored or low on food. He's gotten used to having the run of the dining room these days, and he was very happy to get the extra space when we came back. R. ended up bringing back a nasty cough, so -- as usual for vacations in 2022 -- he's just trying to recover through the power of video games. I took a day or two to be slothful, but now it's time to turn an eye towards making the best of 2023.
That means a bit of cleaning, a bit of organizing, a bit of pre-planning. Today I'll be checking my bank account to make sure I'm handling my budget, moving in to next year's Bullet Journal, and continuing work on the world map for my D&D campaign. I should also call family since I haven't done that in a long time, and I feel bad not at least wishing Ak and my nephews a Merry Christmas. Maybe I can teach them about the magic of Kwanzaa instead. ;)
I saw a YouTube video about making systems instead of goals that felt like the best explainer of the concept yet. Basically, you spend a bit of time actually making your goals but THEN you focus on building the systems that shape the journey to get you there.
It's a pretty straightforward five-step plan! Set your goal, form a strategy, take one-time actions (those big first steps demonstrating commitment), develop a system for daily/weekly actions that make incremental progress, and then commit to the 10/30/100 rule. For ten days, commit to the system with 100% effort. If you miss a day or skip something, start over. This is the "test run" for your system, to see if you can actually sustain it in your daily life. If you're constantly failing, maybe it's a good idea to make a less-intense system.
Once you've practiced your system for 10 days, re-iterate and refine so you can practice for the next 30 days, aiming for a 90% success rate. It's OK if you skip a day or two here or there; life happens. But this is where the rubber meets the road and you form that commitment. Then, commit to 100 days with 80% compliance. By the end of 140 days, even when you're just hitting the mark most days, you should still have a pretty good indicator that the system is working and you've made significant progress to your goal.
The 10/30/100 Rule feels revolutionary to me because I've always had a problem sustaining perfection. With this system, I don't have to -- close enough is enough to get me there. I can even anticipate system-breaking events like, say, my brother-in-law's marriage or Further Confusion, to pick the days where I'm least likely to adhere to the system. And, if there's a failure at any step, the system accounts for that by building in review and revision.
I'll be trying it for a few things in 2023: namely, writing, study, diet and exercise. We'll see how it works!
R. made his tuna casserole, which at this point is a Christmas tradition. It's the ultimate comfort food: simple to make but delicious, with more cheese and pasta than could be considered healthy. We paired it with Glass Onion and The Prom, a few Jackbox games, and Master Dater, the new Cyanide-and-Happiness card game. Maybe it's all the College Humor and Characters Welcome bits we've been seeing, but we've gotten into the habit of using the cards as jumping-off points for character bits and that's been the "secret sauce" that really makes this game sing.
The idea is that a rotating "Sexy Single" (that's the judge) picks three offbeat interests from a stack. They could be anything like "I need someone willing to help me move right now." to "I am interested in someone who can bring back the dead." The "Bachelors" (other players) then pick from one of three "Head" and "Body" cards to make a complete person. So, using the above example, the Head could be "Talking Car" while the Body could be "Zombie". Then, you make your pitch.
The limitation of your hand size is what brings out the creativity. You might have the perfect Head or Body card, but nothing for the other bit -- so it encourages you to think of pretty strange reasons why you'd match. The "Sexy Single" awards each "Bachelor" with the interest they made the strongest case for, so you can get one to three cards per round. The player who's collected one card from each group (pink/blue/orange) AND at least five cards is the winner.
Games go pretty quick; usually there's a winner by the time there's one complete run around the table for four to five players. I'd recommend it for a pre-dinner game. It's a great way to pass the time for 15-30 minutes between larger activities.
We came home fairly early on Monday to make sure Biscuit wasn't too bored or low on food. He's gotten used to having the run of the dining room these days, and he was very happy to get the extra space when we came back. R. ended up bringing back a nasty cough, so -- as usual for vacations in 2022 -- he's just trying to recover through the power of video games. I took a day or two to be slothful, but now it's time to turn an eye towards making the best of 2023.
That means a bit of cleaning, a bit of organizing, a bit of pre-planning. Today I'll be checking my bank account to make sure I'm handling my budget, moving in to next year's Bullet Journal, and continuing work on the world map for my D&D campaign. I should also call family since I haven't done that in a long time, and I feel bad not at least wishing Ak and my nephews a Merry Christmas. Maybe I can teach them about the magic of Kwanzaa instead. ;)
I saw a YouTube video about making systems instead of goals that felt like the best explainer of the concept yet. Basically, you spend a bit of time actually making your goals but THEN you focus on building the systems that shape the journey to get you there.
It's a pretty straightforward five-step plan! Set your goal, form a strategy, take one-time actions (those big first steps demonstrating commitment), develop a system for daily/weekly actions that make incremental progress, and then commit to the 10/30/100 rule. For ten days, commit to the system with 100% effort. If you miss a day or skip something, start over. This is the "test run" for your system, to see if you can actually sustain it in your daily life. If you're constantly failing, maybe it's a good idea to make a less-intense system.
Once you've practiced your system for 10 days, re-iterate and refine so you can practice for the next 30 days, aiming for a 90% success rate. It's OK if you skip a day or two here or there; life happens. But this is where the rubber meets the road and you form that commitment. Then, commit to 100 days with 80% compliance. By the end of 140 days, even when you're just hitting the mark most days, you should still have a pretty good indicator that the system is working and you've made significant progress to your goal.
The 10/30/100 Rule feels revolutionary to me because I've always had a problem sustaining perfection. With this system, I don't have to -- close enough is enough to get me there. I can even anticipate system-breaking events like, say, my brother-in-law's marriage or Further Confusion, to pick the days where I'm least likely to adhere to the system. And, if there's a failure at any step, the system accounts for that by building in review and revision.
I'll be trying it for a few things in 2023: namely, writing, study, diet and exercise. We'll see how it works!
