Out of Everything Bad
Jan. 5th, 2003 10:06 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jakebe
Hey there, all...
Lately, I've been talking to a few people who are relentlessly negative. I won't go into the details of anything, but these people have just been a general drain on my energy and esteem, until last night I just kind of snapped out of myself and went "Why on Earth are you doing this? You *know* you don't have to." So, I think backing off is definitely called for.
However, I did learn a bit more about a few unpleasant behaviors that I have and should probably work on. I don't generally talk about sexual stuff here, mainly because I have a tendency not to be too terribly open with stuff like that, but one of these days (maybe this week if I'm feeling up to it) I'll have to explain.
Anyway, I have this complex. Simply put, I see someone who's having problems or being generally unhappy, and I almost immediately want to try and help them make themselves happy. Often, this does not mean giving them what they want immediately. And because I don't give these people what they want when they want it, the help I *am* offering is almost always summarily rejected. This quite often pisses me off, but this time around I don't even feel angry. I kind of expected it, after a fashion. People who don't want to be helped will always resent the offer, I suppose, and there's not much you can do about that. I just need to be better about reserving 'advice' and 'help', especially since my brand of help may not be what's best for someone at the moment.
Anywho, I'm tired. I think I'll write a little bit then turn in for bed.
Lately, I've been talking to a few people who are relentlessly negative. I won't go into the details of anything, but these people have just been a general drain on my energy and esteem, until last night I just kind of snapped out of myself and went "Why on Earth are you doing this? You *know* you don't have to." So, I think backing off is definitely called for.
However, I did learn a bit more about a few unpleasant behaviors that I have and should probably work on. I don't generally talk about sexual stuff here, mainly because I have a tendency not to be too terribly open with stuff like that, but one of these days (maybe this week if I'm feeling up to it) I'll have to explain.
Anyway, I have this complex. Simply put, I see someone who's having problems or being generally unhappy, and I almost immediately want to try and help them make themselves happy. Often, this does not mean giving them what they want immediately. And because I don't give these people what they want when they want it, the help I *am* offering is almost always summarily rejected. This quite often pisses me off, but this time around I don't even feel angry. I kind of expected it, after a fashion. People who don't want to be helped will always resent the offer, I suppose, and there's not much you can do about that. I just need to be better about reserving 'advice' and 'help', especially since my brand of help may not be what's best for someone at the moment.
Anywho, I'm tired. I think I'll write a little bit then turn in for bed.
